Couples Counseling & Therapy

I work with couples across different stages of relationships and family life, including premarital, married and unmarried couples, LGBTQ+ couples, aging couples, couples considering separation or divorce, and couples navigating significant conflict or change. Couples often begin therapy when the way they have been handling things is no longer working, or they want to better understand the road ahead. Sometimes pressures have accumulated through work, parenting, intimacy, health concerns, aging, addiction, financial uncertainty, infidelity, or other significant life changes. This can result in escalating conflicts and communication may have become difficult. One or both partners may be questioning what needs to change.

Understanding the Pattern & Moving Forward

When a relationship is under stress, the same disagreements can repeat and muddle our decision-making. Therapy provides an opportunity to slow things down and understand what is happening between you. During sessions, we also look at what each person can take responsibility for and which patterns may be maintaining the conflict. Depending on the couple, the work may involve improving communication, rebuilding trust, clarifying values and priorities, or navigating significant changes affecting the relationship. Some couples begin therapy knowing they want to remain together. Others are uncertain about the future of the relationship. Both are reasonable places to start.

How Couples Therapy Helps

This work is often helpful when couples are:

• experiencing ongoing conflict or distance
• struggling with communication, trust or intimacy
• navigating parenting, infidelity, or major life changes
• considering commitment (premarital therapy) or realignment
• considering separation or divorce but unsure of the consequences of each path

When One Partner Is Unsure

Sometimes couples come to therapy when one person is uncertain about the relationship or considering separation or divorce, while the other hopes to repair it. The immediate task may not be to fix the relationship or end it, but to slow the process down enough to understand what is happening. We can then consider the options carefully and make thoughtful decisions about what comes next.

Sessions focus on understanding patterns, improving dialogue, and supporting clearer decision-making within the relationship.